As any single person in 2019 can attest, it can be rough out there in the dating realm.
Especially when there’s a whole host of terrifying new types of f*ckboys to steer clear of.
One addition joining the mix over the past few years is of course the softboi (the street name for a fake nice guy), who we can almost guarantee you’ve encountered at least once.
Urban Dictionary (a fine source of literary enlightenment, thank you very much) defines a softboi as “similar to a f*ckboy but without the cocky attitude. Differs from the f*ckboy because he goes for the heart and emotions rather than just the body”.
The softboi, in other words, is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. The snake of the modern dating world. He’s manipulative, he’s calculated, but guys – as he’ll tell you when it eventually comes to an end – it’s because he’s complicated.
His online dating profile in no way indicates that he’s “looking for fun”. Instead, he’s “in touch with his feminine side”, and claims he’s after someone to “take his dog for walks with” and to “eat pizza/ice cream/(insert delicious food here) with”.
Listen to Mamamia Out Loud discuss the softboi below. Post continues after podcast.
He wants you to know he’s emotionally intelligent, socially aware and “woke”. He wouldn’t ghost you. He’s not like that.